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Writing on coercive control, family court abuse, workplace abuse, trauma, and grief. Practical, grounded, and written for survivors, not about them.

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Family Violence and the Family Court: What Survivors Need to Know

If you are navigating the family law system and family violence, you may have been pointed to the Court’s Family Violence Best Practice Principles. It is a long, formal document. Many people cannot get through it, especially when they are already frightened, exhausted, or living with ongoing coercive control. This piece translates what the Court is saying about safety, disclosure, credibility, coercive control, systems abuse, and children. It also names what survivors often discover in practice, and why the gap between the two is not your fault.

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When the Family Court Can’t See the Abuse

If you’re facing family court because you left an abusive relationship and now have to prove to strangers that the abuse was real…. I need you to know something. The system you’re about to enter wasn’t designed for you. It wasn’t built to recognize the kind of harm you survived. You’re going to walk into rooms where your abuser is charming, calm, and reasonable. Where you…. traumatised, exhausted, afraid…. will be the one who looks unstable. This isn’t your failure. This is systemic failure.

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