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Writing on coercive control, family court abuse, workplace abuse, trauma, and grief. Practical, grounded, and written for survivors, not about them.

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When Workplace Abuse Hides in Plain Sight

Some of the most damaging workplace abuse doesn’t look like abuse at all. It looks like silence. Like being kept but ignored. Like policies that protect the organisation, not you. Like being slowly erased while everything remains “procedurally correct.” It happens in what doesn’t occur, in communication that stops, in roles that vanish, in processes that exist until you try to rely on them. This article names the patterns of covert workplace harm that are easy to deny, psychologically destabilising over time, and designed to leave people questioning their own memory, reactions, and worth rather than the systems causing the damage.

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If You Have to Go to Christmas: A Survival Kit

Sometimes you walk into Christmas the way you’d walk into a warzone you already know too well, not because you want to be there, but because life is messy and families are complicated and opting out isn’t always an option. If you have to go to Christmas this year, bring a survival kit. Park for a quick getaway. Sit with the dog, the only creature in the room without an agenda. Time-box your visit. Reward yourself afterward. This isn’t about decking the halls. It’s about getting out alive and breathing again in the quiet that follows.

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How the Legal System Can Re-traumatise Survivors

When a survivor speaks out, the legal system can become another source of harm. Court dates, cross-examinations and endless demands to “prove it again” can reopen the original wound in ways the public rarely sees. Drawing from Brittany Higgins’ statement about being re-traumatised through litigation, this article shows how the system can be used as a weapon, and what it costs survivors emotionally, physically, and over years of their lives.

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ENOUGH: What Coercive Control Steals. What Recovery Makes Possible. Launch Day Release

Today is the official launch of our book, ENOUGH: What Coercive Control Steals. What Recovery Makes Possible. To mark it, I’m sharing three pieces that belong together, the three threads that became the spine of this book.

You’ll start with the Preface, where I lay out the truth of coercive control as Georgie lived it: not a relationship problem, but a system designed to erase a person from the inside out.

Then you’ll read Georgie’s own writing on domestic abuse, the pages she wrote quietly and privately. In them she names the reality so many survivors recognise instantly, abuse that leaves no bruises but leaves a lifetime of damage.

And finally, you’ll come to the piece she wrote when she’d already begun reclaiming herself. The part where she turns toward the future. The part where she names joy, gratitude, and the simple, sacred right to live true.

These three pieces sit side by side for a reason.

They show where she came from, what she survived, and who she became.

They show the whole arc, the truth, the damage, and the life she built after.

This article brings those pieces together for the first time.

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When the World Burns and We Keep Eating Breakfast

You watch the news and something inside you fractures. How are humans doing this to other humans? Again. How do we keep watching it happen?

This article starts with the simplest, most devastating questions: Why do humans do this? And is this who we are? It’s not about politics or terminology. It’s about sitting in your kitchen with cold coffee and a sick feeling in your stomach, watching children pulled from rubble while everyone else goes to work, makes lunch, scrolls to the next thing.

It’s about the evolutionary wiring that says we survive together, and the 10,000 years of hierarchical systems built on domination and manufactured scarcity that taught us to look away. It’s about good people sitting there appalled, feeling their bodies break open at the horror, and wondering if that breaking matters. And it’s about the uncomfortable truth: we’re capable of both extraordinary compassion and systematic extermination.

The question isn’t which one is real. It’s which one we choose to feed.

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When Work Feels Unsafe After Trauma: A Trauma Recovery Morning Guide

This article is for trauma survivors who wake already overwhelmed, already tense, already braced for a workday that hasn’t started. It explains why your body reacts this way, why work can echo old patterns even when it isn’t unsafe, and why mornings feel so hard after trauma.

You’ll learn how your nervous system carries yesterday into today, why you arrive at work already on alert, and how small grounding cues can shift your whole morning. It includes real stories from survivors and a simple, practical step you can use this week to help your body start the day from a calmer place.

If you wake exhausted, anxious, or already in survival mode, this guide will help you understand what’s happening and give you something you can actually do about it.

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How Child Abuse Affects Survivors in Adulthood

This article is for anyone who’s finally realising that the struggles they’ve carried into adulthood aren’t flaws or failures, but the long-term effects of what they lived through as a child. It explains how childhood abuse reshapes the brain, distorts identity, affects relationships, fuels mental health struggles, and creates survival patterns that once protected you but now hold you back.

You’ll learn why you think the way you do, why you react so strongly, why you doubt yourself, why boundaries feel impossible, and why intimacy feels dangerous. It shows how the voice in your head was shaped by the people who raised you, and why adult life feels harder for reasons that make complete sense.

This piece gives survivors a framework that turns self-blame into understanding. It connects the dots between childhood trauma and adult patterns, and offers one practical step to begin changing the habits that no longer serve you.

If you’ve ever wondered “Why am I like this?”, this article helps you see the answer with compassion instead of shame.

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For Coercive Control Survivors: When Your Feelings Became Weapons Against You

This article is for coercive control survivors whose feelings were turned into proof that something was wrong with them. It unpacks how tears, anger, hurt or even joy were twisted into manipulation, drama or instability, and how constant emotional invalidation slowly teaches you to doubt your own signals and shrink yourself to stay safe.

You will learn how this pattern shows up as self-doubt, apologising for your feelings before you even express them, keeping lists in your head of what you are “not allowed” to feel, and believing your reactions are the problem instead of their behaviour. The article names the tactics, gives real survivor stories, and offers a simple practice to start speaking (or at least admitting to yourself) what you feel without the automatic “I’m probably overreacting, but…”

If you have ever wondered whether you are too sensitive or finally just noticing what hurts, this guide helps you see that your emotions were never the weapon. They were the warning system.

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How To Read a Threatening Lawyer Email Without Losing Your Mind: A Trauma-Informed Guide

This “How To” is a guide for anyone who opens a lawyer email and feels their whole body go into meltdown before they have read a single sentence. It explains what is actually happening in your nervous system, why your stomach drops, your jaw locks and you reread the same paragraph ten times, and why that reaction is biology, not weakness.

You will learn how threatening legal emails are written to multiply fear, how to separate facts from theatre, and how to spot tactics that are designed to make you shut up rather than because you are wrong. The article gives you a simple timeline for what to do in the first hours and days after the email arrives, and practical steps to help your body settle before you respond.

If you have ever thought, “I cannot think straight when I read this stuff,” this guide helps you understand why, and shows you how to read lawyer threats without abandoning yourself or your rights.

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What is Workplace Bullying, Harassment, or Abuse: Definitions and Examples

This guide explains, in plain language, what workplace bullying, harassment, abuse and organisational neglect actually are, and how to tell which one you’re dealing with from real-world patterns, not HR spin. It walks you through concrete examples (constant criticism, exclusion, sexual or discriminatory “jokes”, financial or psychological abuse, being quietly erased from all work) so you can stop wondering “is it me?” and start seeing the behaviour for what it is. You’ll also get help naming what’s happening in your own situation and a simple written exercise to capture specific incidents safely, so you have language for doctors, lawyers, trusted friends – and for yourself, when your body already knows it isn’t “just work stress.”

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The Only Thing That Would Fix Grief

This article is for people whose grief feels unfixable because the only thing that would truly help is impossible. If you’ve lost someone you cannot imagine living without, and every book, course or kind suggestion feels too small for what you’re carrying, this will make sense to you. It explains why advice feels useless, why exhaustion is constant, why nothing feels normal, and why you’re not failing at grief. It names the truth most resources avoid: you’re not sad, you’re living in a world that no longer has the person who made it make sense. This guide won’t offer stages or timelines. It will simply meet you where you are, in the reality that nothing fixes this, and survival is its own kind of courage.

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An Exclusive Interview with Geoffrey Clow, Author of Enough: What Coercive Control Steals, What Recovery Makes Possible

This interview with Geoffrey Clow, author of ENOUGH: What Coercive Control Steals. What Recovery Makes Possible, gives survivors of coercive control and narcissistic abuse, and the people who support them, a clear window into why the book was written, how it came to life, and what makes it stand apart in the abuse and trauma recovery space.

Geoffrey speaks openly about the psychological dismantling inside coercive control, why survivors doubt themselves, and why traditional therapy so often fails them. The conversation also traces Georgie Bailey’s influence on the book, the grief woven through its pages, and the creation of a practical, survivor-led resource built to offer language, validation, and tools that genuinely help.

If you want to understand coercive control in a way that feels human rather than clinical, or you are looking for support that feels grounded and real, this interview shows exactly what Enough offers and why it matters.

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